Yes, I am committed:

Of course, this question strikes several times to me from my friends when we used to talk about our past life. However, I tried to shirk such a question for long time, today I am trying to clarify to them about my thoughts and my life style. Yes, I am single but it doesn’t mean that I am lonely, miserable and drifter. Of course, I need somebody whom I can trust and share my thoughts but it doesn’t mean that I should be committed to somebody or should have girl friend whom I can share my thoughts. I can remember one of my friend who is separated and now single in the age of 55 years and still searching somebody whose life moves at the craze of every beautiful female. He goes every Friday and Saturday night out, hanging around the female and asks for dating who choose to do so. When I see such a behaviour of men then I started to imagine and ponder in this matter that should I have to change my status into COMMITTED? However, I can't simply discard myself with a 'single' status. Of course, there is a difference between someone 'single and desperately looking for' and someone 'single by choice'. The crucial question arise how do I change my status if I don’t have whom I looking for?
Yes, I have dream and she is more beautiful than an angel. Then why don’t I commit to my dream? I don’t want to commit for any alluring beauty of female. How do I trust a female whom I always endeavour to realize? How do I trust her amiable face with elusive smile that made me to fascinate towards her? I do believe that commitment to a girl makes our commitment for other things stronger and perfect. Because such a commitment makes us feel responsible. We wouldn't want to hurt our prospects, would we? Commitment to an amiable face with elusive smile and taunts will get us a fleeting material pleasure, but that will soon fade away. I should rather commit to a girl who reciprocates what I stand for, who complements me, and gets complemented in return. I think it is necessary for everyone to understand the other more deeply and to actually "feel" the other person in us. These needs to be a constant flow of love, trust and commitment to keep it smooth. It is a happy and positive emotion after all (the emotion of committing someone) so it is hard to understand why there is a hesitation to express?
Obviously, it is human nature that every opposite sex attracts each other so I was. Every men dream to share his thoughts, pain and everything to her whom he want to commit. But if she takes me in different way that I am coward and manoeuvre to face problem, then what can I say to her? I can delineate myself that I am a soft approach person who doesn’t want to dictate anybody “I like this and I don’t like this”. It is more of an occasional desire that other feels so I am feeling today, like I have to pander to her. But after a while of not hearing anything from her side, the question did come up in my mind again and again - if she is feeling bizarre about me, why won't she say about it? That in turn gradually led to me in doubts about the sincerity of the emotion about her and found that may be she started snubbing and humiliating me. I tried to be honest to her and told her everything about me. May be this took me far from her. I tried to explain her but she didn’t give me a chance. It made me embarrassed and started asking myself: What I have done to her that she despises me? When I didn’t have contemplation about her, at that time I was alone but I wasn’t that much lonely. Every success is based on commitment but my dreams of commitment altered without any reason.
Now I have to compromise my dreams and move towards the success. I have a dream to do something in this life which I have committed. I think a person can commit only one thing at a time to achieve something “success”. I shouldn’t barter this valuable time just mourning which I didn’t achieve. I should try to achieve my dreams which I used to see that I want to something. I do believe in fate as well so I am pretty sure that my fate will not be cruel to me. I can only put effort and I am pretty sure that success will be decided by my fate. So, I don’t want to comformise with this commitment to anybody. Nothing is important and valuable than my childhood dream.
Last but not the least, I would always want to commit my life to my dreams, which indeed I have. But yes, in some corner, in some hide-out, there does linger a dream in which I am committed to someone inwardly beautiful. Someone I would want to spend my every moment of life with her, someone whose presence can be comforting enough (and my presence for her) for me to accomplish my other commitments in a better manner than I would have to without her.

AIC Power in religions:

The AIC power pattern in the major religions:

Nepal can be a global hub:

Today, In Nepal illiteracy is reducing only at the rate of 1.3 percent per annuam. At this rate, Nepal will need another 50 years to attain a literacy rate of 95 percent. Hopefully, Development in India and China's technologies can speed up in this progress in Nepal. Science too has its role to play. We cannot be industrially and economically advanced and we cannot be technologically advanced unless we are scientifically advanced. One of the critical issues facing Nepal is the gulf between the academic world and industry. The notion that scientific ideas lead to technology and from there to wealth is not widespread. Nepal needs economic liberalisation and competition between Nepalese companies which is being tamed, so they are under no pressure to come up with new ideas, nor did academics promote their ideas to industry.
Today, In real life most of the people are leaving country because of Nepal’s political instability and lack of opportunity for employment and government’s future policy. People are going for employment at India, Arab countries and western countries. Some of them are attempting to gain illegal passage to developed countries like European countries, USA and Australia by holding false passport and documents. Most of the people in Nepal dream of being overseas so that they are watching foreign channel rather Nepal TV, are also the main source of aspiring to be somewhere else for better future and employment. The fact that so many Nepalese dream of leaving significantly threatens Nepal's economic development, social well-being, and political stability. Every year Nepal loses two to three percent of its GNP to brain drain. Every year Nepal loses between 1,000 and 2,000 professors, doctors, and engineers annually. This loss means fewer well-educated, ambitious citizens who could help lead our country. However there is an irony here, for if through immigration Nepal loses capital in some forms, it gains it through the money its immigrants send back to their families.
Rich country like United Kingdom wants migrants' labour, but do not want to look after these newcomers when they grow old. Ideally, rich countries would like a constant rotation of workers, arriving while they are young and active, leaving before they grow old and dependent. For its part, the commission argues that “temporary and circular migration” is also better for poor country like Nepal. One reason is remittances: the longer an immigrant stays away from home, the smaller the share of his wages he sends back.
Nepali households invest more than half of their savings in physical ones such as land, houses, cattle, and gold instead of putting money into financial assets. In rural areas, the proportion is even higher. This fact shows that Nepal's people mistrust of banks and are the world's largest consumers of gold. They possess billion of dollars, equal to nearly half of the country's bank deposits, and last year bought $1 billion worth, nearly five times the amount of the foreign direct investment which Nepal received. Households could earn higher returns by investing in financial assets, and the country would be better off if savings were pooled to finance more productive investments.
This dilemma may help explain why the Nepalese government can seem unsure about its policy. There is war between three parties government, political parties and Communist follower “Moist”. If we ask about the current situation to them, they give a very simple answer without taking any responsibility that we don’t have a lot of resources like India and China. Now, our greatest resource and valuable export is our human potential. We Nepalese have been working in India and United Kingdom’s defence since more than century as Gorkha Army and now it has become a tradition to become Lahure (Army) in those countries.
When we talk about civilisations, there is always rise and fall. One thing prominently comes to light that is the cycle of growth and demise is similar to the law of Diminishing returns. When a civilisation is in the establishing mode then there would need to create newer standards which are epochal. This accelerates the creative spirit of the surrounding environment and the fervent desire to contribute to the growth drives this creative spirit. However once certain exceptional standards are achieved which one may look back upon as catalytic to the growth of the society. The collective psyche tends to stagnate and basking in the glory of its achievements.

Nepali folk song:

Nepal can be a global hub:

Nepal is small Himalayan kingdom situated between two future superpower China and India which will be world’s 2nd and 3rd leading economic countries respectively after USA by 2050. Nepal could take advantage from the international investment community where Western press rarely mentions that certified miracle that very large amount of global trade with China and India instead of adding “China”, “India” and “Nepal”. Let us take very simple example which I can admit that it is unscientific test-Google search about Nepal. Google search reveals over 10 times more reference linking “Nepal” and “India” than “Nepal” and “China” and 100 times more than “Nepal”, “Gorkha Army” and “Himalayan”. It is well worth to asking whether Nepal is really ready to take advantage in the regional and global economy. However, we can focus on country’s strengths and weaknesses, it would be useful to raise the question in different way “Does Nepal have the mind-set it needs to be a player in regional and global integrated economy?”
It is difficult to talk about mind-set even more difficult to talk about a nation’s mind-set. However it does seem that there are a time comes when a nation feels confident that it can take on the world, achieve any dream and meet any challenge. If we maintain this spirit, it can be an enormous aid to growth and development of our nation. The main challenge is to properly channel by government bodies, politicians, public sectors, private sectors and even every individual, as a result such spirit can be an enormous aid for development and growth of our nation. However some sociologists have criticised this argument such a spirit of nation’s atma vishwas (self confidence), we can take several examples a kind of substantial growth seen in Japan in the 1950s and 1960s, South Korea in the 1970s and, China and India today.
The economics miracle of our age has been the strength with which previously vanquished economics of Japan and West Germany have risen from the ashes of war to become two of the wealthiest societies in the world. They have achieved this result through the execution of sound manufacturing strategies clearly invented to produce high quality technology products requiring substantial research and development (R&D) expenditure and massive investment in new capital plant and machinery. China’s vast manufacturing base is raising its GDP by around 9 percent a year as a result of poorly endowed with natural resources and massive manpower.
In real life,the changes in India and China have been more profound than this suggests.Over the past few years alone, more than 100 IT and science based firms have located R&D labs in India. These are not drudge jobs: high-tech companies are coming to India to find innovators whose ideas will take the world by storm. Their recruits are young graduates, straight from India's universities and elite technology institutes, or expats who are streaming back because they see India as the place to be- better than Europe and the US. This knowlodge revoluation has begun.
This is the great opportunity for Nepal being situated between two future Superpower countries. Nepal's foreign policy is also good between both countries. There is more influence of India than China because of open border, culture, climate and so on. Today,In India high-tech is not the sole perserve of the rich. Autorickshaw drivers began using mobile phone so that customers can call for a ride. Technology companies are extending internet connections to the remote locations. Small,renewable electricity generators are appearing in villages, and the government is using home- grown space technology to improve literatecy skills and education in far flung areas.

Common Sense:

We are undoubtedly heard comment 'It's just common sense' when we are trying to justify an idea or give creeping to our viewpoint. However, In practice the claim that someone is 'common sense' is often used by people who do not wish to, or cannot explain their reasoning. There are two main dangers of saying 'it's common sense' which I have tried to explain by taking in social scientist's viewpoint.

1. It is not always common: When we describe an idea, issue, theory or whatever as common sense we often mean that it fits with our own understanding of the world. However, other people from different social backgrounds, ethnic groups, age groups, and so on might not share the same understanding. In other words, the idea, issue or theory is not common to them. Just because something is sensible that does not automatically make it common.

2. It is not always sense: Albert Eisten described common sense as 'the collective of prejudices we have acquired by the age of 18'. In other words, common sense explanations often close our minds to other possibilities. Just because something is common that does not automatically make it sensible. Some sense understandings are later proven by rational, logical enquiry and experience to be misguided and ill-informed.

Therefore, social scientists rarely justify something as common sense. They are always seeking to prove their claims and justify their theories and ideas.

Lateral and Vertical thinking:

Every individual owes his/her success to his/her creativity. It is most useful in goodtime and essential in bad time as well. The main and crucial question arises that how can one achieve it? It is regarded as a magic gift of divine flash of inspiration, a chance coming together of extraordinary circumstances. It seems that one can do nothing about creativity except await it passively. It usually does come about in this passive manner-but only because we have never developed the type of thinking that encourages it.
Creativity is a “lateral thinking” type of thinking and it has been difficult to develop because in many ways, it is contrary to the traditional habits of logical thinking which we find very useful. The essential step is to understand the processes involved in creativity, escape from attitudes which inhibit these processes and to use methods for encouraging them. This is the purpose of lateral thinking, which can be learned as a skill and then used in a deliberate manner in order to achieve creativity.
Creativity is not only concerned with generating new ideas but with escaping from old ones. Continuity is the reason for the survival of most ideas, not a repeated assessment of their value. Such continuity can trap one into gross inefficiency. Freed from the prison of an obsolescent idea, one can move ahead. Furthermore, ideas (like organisations) which develop slowly over period of time tend to be cumbersome. With creativity restructing, one can slice through the inefficiency and put things together in a much simpler and more effective manner.
The huge effectiveness of mind arises directly from the way it organises information into patterns. The more firmly a pattern is established the more useful it becomes. But creativity involves breaking out of established patterns in order to look at things in a different way. Thus the very effectiveness of mind in establishing fixed patterns makes creativity very difficult. It is like having a filing system set up to store data in a particular way. In order to pursuer cross references in such a filing system, one would have to develop new ways of using it.
When creativity is regarded as a magic gift, there is nothing that can be done about it if we are not lucky enough to have the gift. But everyone can develop some skill in lateral thinking and those who develop most skill will be most creative.
An understanding of the creative process is based on the way the mind handles information. The achievement of creativity involves: an attitude of mind, an escape from traditional thinking habits specific formats and techniques, and the use of a new functional word. All these combine to give the skill of lateral thinking. This skill can be learned, practiced and used. With practice and confidence lateral thinking can become so natural a part of thinking that no special effort is required.

Work skills:

Skill is generally considered to be a possession of the individual. It can take numerous forms-for example, knowledge, dexterity, judgement, linguistic ability-however the assumption is that it accrued by the individual as a product of accumulated education, training and experience. In survey (Francis and Penn, 1994) respondents reported over 16 different definitions when asked the question ‘What do you think is meant by the term skilled job?’. However, there was some convergence around five main characteristics: training, qualifications, apprenticeship, experience and high abilities. Francis and Penn conclude that different occupational groups will categorise skill in different ways, which suggests that person’s conception of skill is largely based on his or her own experiences of employment.

Cockburn (1983: 113) suggests that person, job and setting all three aspects need to be taken into account. In her study of (male) printworkers she argues that:
There is the skill that resides in the man himself, accumulated over time, each new experience adding something to total ability. There is the skill demanded by the job-which may not match the skill in the worker. And there is the political definition of skill: that which a group of workers or a trade union can successfully defend against the challenge of employers and other groups of workers. Cockburn has divided the skills in to three categories because each suggests a different approach to examining skill.
1) Skill in the person: Any analysis that concentrates on the person is likely to attempt to identify individual attributes and qualities, and seek to measure these through, for example, and aptitude test under experimental conditions; typically this approach has been taken by psychologists. Similarly, a questionnaire might be administrated to assess the individual’s education, training and experience, which could then be proxy for skill-a method frequently adopted by economists.
2) skill in the job: If the analytical focus is the job then the concern is less with the person performing the task than with the requirements embedded in the task itself. In this case, attention would be turned towards the complexity of the tasks required to perform the job competently- an approach typically taken by management theorists. It would also include the extent of discretion over the work-an issue of particular interest to industrial/employment relations theorists.
3) skill in the setting: if the focus is on the political and historical setting, an analysis would be assessing the way skill has developed over time and has been ‘constructed’ by different interest groups, rather than being a feature of the person or the job-an approach pursued by some sociologists, but more usually by historians.
These differences in approach to analysing skill are summarised in following table: (Click on diagram to enlarge.)
The approach of Human Capital theorists (Becker, 1964) who argue that in market economy, a person’s human capital will determine their value as an employee. For Human Capital theorist, responsibility for success in work clearly lies with the individual; they invoke the notion of the notion of a meritrocratic society, where individual endeavour is rewarded. There are three problems recognise with the human capital approach:
1) Inequality of opportunity: The approach assumes that everyone has the same opportunity of access to the activities that improve human capital. For example, a person has to be offered a job in order to gain work experience however when there are high rates of unemployment allowing employers to pick and choose, a person with no work experience is less likely to be offered a job, they are consequently unable to gain work experience.
2) Validity of the skill measures: A general problem is whether the variables of education, training and experience are valid measures of skill. The number of years of a person spends in formal education is linked to qualifications attained, but even then it does not necessarily mean that skills learned will be appropriate or transferable to the work setting. Similarly, while the measurement of training may be a better indicator of industry-specific knowledge and aptitude, it does not take into account the applicability of the training to the current context.
3) Use value of the skill: Measurement should include those attributes that have a current value-in other words the measurement of ‘skill in use’ rather than skill possessed. For example, if person learns to speak Nepali and gain qualification proving their competence, does this constitute a skill? If it has some market value, human capital theorists would say yes, but if few employers require Nepali speakers, it value is severely reduced. In other words, skill is not a fixed concept, but it is relative to its market value. In this sense, all knowledge and abilities can be seen as potential skills, but it is the demand for them and their supply that give them value. Therefore, measuring the skills possessed by the person can be misleading without exploring the labour market context.

The approach of assessing skill in the person tends to view skill as an attribute possessed by an individual, and sometimes described as a person’s human capital. While this appears to be a relativity simple way of assessing skill, the problems lie in the methods of measurement and then putting these in to practice.